Working With Couples:
I use a method called Emotionally Focused Couples’ Therapy. What is that?
EFT is a model of couples and family therapy intended to:expand and re-organize key emotional responses between couples and/or family members create a shift in interactional positions and initiate new cycles of interaction foster the creation of a secure bond between partners or family members.
I help you to stay in conversation about your differences, to learn to reach for each other and recreate safe emotional bonds. I provide a safe space where feelings and differences are heard and deeply understood FOR HOW THEY REALLY MATTER to each of you. We will look at where you get stuck in your negative patterns, which, despite your best efforts to resolve, perpetuate disconnection.
Reconnection is possible.
When a relationship grows strong enough to tolerate differences, intimacy and closeness deepen. With an atmosphere of safety, I can help you stay in the fire of difficult conversations long enough to discover unconscious triggers and facilitate a move towards deeper understanding of one another. This healing process creates more compassion and empathy which, in time, softens rigid patterns and opens up new avenues of connection.
EFT is usually a short term (8-20 sessions), structured approach to couples therapy formulated in the early 80′s by Drs. Sue Johnson and Les Greenberg. EFT is also used with families. A substantial body of research outlining the effectiveness of EFT now exists. Research studies find that 70-75% of couples move from distress to recovery and approximately 90% show significant improvements. For more information, go to www.iceeft.com/